I love the work of Pema Chodron. One of my favorite teachings of her’s is this:
“Nothing will ever go away until it has taught us what we need to know.”
There is so much wisdom in these few words, I feel that I can live my entire life by them.
When I first heard these words a number of years ago, there were lots of situations in my life I wanted to go away. First, there was the list of diagnoses that I was living with from Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia to Depression etc. You can read more about that story here.
I had hired a whole team of professionals from therapists, to body workers, healers, practitioners of chinese medicine, naturopaths, homeopaths…the actual list is even longer; to help me heal from these diagnoses and symptoms. I desperately wanted to get better and these symptoms to go away!
I would show up at each of my appointments wishing, hoping and praying that today..this day, would be the breakthrough day!
I think I was secretly hoping for a magic switch that would heal and make me enlightened at the same time. But of course, there was no such lightning bolts of healing or enlightenment!
I also knew I had to keep at it because there was no other alternative, and no going back. But, this realization didn’t stop me from hoping or feeling disappointed at just how long this healing process was taking! I was frustrated at the time and money I was spending, while not earning an income, to get my health back.
When was I finally going to feel better?
I couldn’t wait to get back to my life and to be able to have the energy to play with my kids, host parties for our friends again, make fun plans to go out. All these things had to be put on hold when I was in the depths of my illness, because I barely had energy to get up and get dressed in the morning!
What I now know is this. Every problem, difficult situation and person in your life, serves a purpose. Illness too serves a purpose!
The recurring problems in your life, are just louder calls from your body and life for you to pay attention.
Until you can tap into that message that the problem, situation, or illness has for you, and learn how and why it’s showing up in your life, in this particular moment and time; AND use that insight to make the actual corrections and changes in your life, the illness or another situation that is THE BIG PROBLEM in your life, just will not go away.
It took me a few long years to learn that lesson! Once I understood this lesson, it became easier to understand why the symptoms of illness were not going away. I was still impatient, and I still wanted to get better.
But, I finally stopped fighting the illness, the symptoms and myself!
This doesn’t mean you stop trying things, doing what’s necessary and required to move your life forward.
Absolutely! You need to do just that.
However, the moving forward, the healing, the solving of whatever problem it is that you are facing in your life right now, will be SO MUCH EASIER, if you take the time to dig deep and understand why this problem is here in your life.
What is it’s purpose? What is it here to teach you?
Once you understand this, and are willing to take responsibility for your life and the choices that have brought you here, moving forward, healing, and creating whatever you want to create in your life, becomes a 100 times easier.
In fact you must might be surprised to notice that the problem often times will resolve itself!
I’d love to hear what you are struggling with at the moment. What problem or situation keeps resurfacing in your life? What do you keep wishing would go away?
If you would like some personal one on one time with me, reach out via my contact page. I’d be happy to offer you a complimentary 15 minute session.
I know how it feels to be feeling stuck and helpless. My deepest wish for you is to get to the root cause of whatever is keeping you stuck so you can be free to move forward with your amazing life!
Sending you so much love!